Co-Parenting a collaborative parental solution after divorce !

By : SAIDI Sanaa

   We live in an era where the traditional model of the nuclear family is witnessing some radical changes. The tremendous increase of divorce is a tangible reality, which pushes the family model towards a transition to what is called co-parenting. The emergence of this alternative to raise children comes from the undeniable need to provide them with a healthy environment despite the parents’ separation. So what does co parenting really stand for ? What are its benefits ? And, what are its challenges ? 

     Co-parenting highlights the shared responsibility and is based primarily on a strong cooperation between both parents in making sure to put their children’s needs and interests as a top priority. It is a different approach compared to the traditional custodial arrangements which put the major responsibilities on one parent. Co-parenting strives to establish equitable responsibilities for both parents. Research suggests that co-parenting holds several benefits on both the children and the parents. The support of both parents and shared presence builds a sense of stability and creates a healthy environment for the children to have better emotional and social outcomes. The fact that both parents share responsibilities of their children embarks them on a shared decision making process where no one is excluded . Because co-parenting is all about healthy communication and cooperation between the parents, it reduces conflict and creates a peaceful environment for the children. 

     While co-parenting holds numerous benefits, it doesn’t come without challenges. Both parents should put efforts into making their communication effective and their collaboration constructive. They also need to respect each other’s boundaries and not cross the limits .Unresolved emotional issues or any baggage from their past relationship should stay behind them and not be projected on this new transformative stage; otherwise the children will be impacted negatively and their wellbeing would be at risk. Another challenge that arises is maintaining consistency in terms of approaches and routines. Parents should create a united front to provide stability to their children. 

     Co-parenting is a raising approach that prioritizes the wellbeing of the children of divorced parents. It has a positive outcome on both parents and children. The bases of this approach remain communication and collaboration. Again, it doesn’t come without challenges. Parents who choose to opt for this approach shouldn’t hesitate to seek help from professionals to fix their personal issues and not project them on the children, in order to provide effective co-parenting.